Want to Get Laid More? Clean Your Home! (Survey Concluded)

We’ve all heard phrases regarding the change that many couples experience when it comes to marriage and sex.

The longer you’re married, the longer you can go without sex.

Once you’re married, your love life is over.

If this sounds a little too familiar, keep reading, there are actually a number of things that you can start doing today to change your situation – and the appearance of your home at the same time!

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Now, doing housework might not be the first thing that pops into your head when you are trying to spice up your love life. But having a clean home has proven to have a significant impact on your desire to be intimate.

In fact, a recent survey by Declutter found that women are much more likely to get it on when they are in an organized and clean space. The survey also found that most women actually prefer having a clean environment over getting laid.

According to the survey, if given the option, 44% of people would prefer living in a clean and organized space over sex.

That said, the survey, which questioned more than 1,000 people, showed that 50% of respondents thought that they are highly likely to be in the mood for sex after their partner has done household chores.

In fact, 60% of participants said an organized and clean bedroom really gets them in the mood. Many stated that watching their partner dust the tv, run the vacuum, or do the dishes gave them the feels.

To put it simply, if you really want to spice it up, all you have to do is set aside a day for you and your partner to do some spring cleaning.

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The Effects of Cleaning on Dating

When it comes to dating, Americans are also hesitant to get serious with someone whose household isn’t clean and organized, with close to 50% of respondents reporting that they are likely to end a relationship with someone who has a home that is unclean or cluttered.

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Solid Facts

Below are some of the other facts and figures that the survey discovered. How many of these apply to you? Of all participants:

0 %

agreed that the cleanliness of their home outweigh sex in their relationship

0 %

would forgo social media for an entire year than having to live in a disorganized home

0 %

would get rid of their tech gadgets when decluttering

0 %

said that they’d rather live with their parents than in a cluttered den

0 %

reported more stress caused by keeping the home neat than their jobs

Motherhood, Housework and Constant Stress

Housework and childcare are the prime sources of constant stress. Moms are on call, in every way, mentally, physically, and emotionally 24 hours a day 365 days a year.

As a mother, you have a constant stream of housework to do, because, in modern North American society, your house can’t look anything less than picture perfect.

So, women have a constant nagging in the back of their heads, reminding them of everything that they have to complete simply in order to remain at the baseline of socially acceptable – keeping your kids clean and fed, the house tidy, and you yourself have a couple of minutes to exercise or relax.

Furthermore, unlike traditional paid work, which many of the same women also do on a daily basis, there are no financial bonuses, or positive feedback from maintaining a steady stream of cleaning, cooking, and laundry.

In fact, often mothers experience the exact opposite with children fussing and refusing to eat what they are given, and making a mess anywhere that has recently been cleaned.

Improving Your Relationship Through Decluttering

Garage sales have the ability to relieve us of the extra things that tend to build up over time.

Things like CDs, DVDs, clothes, phones, tablets, watches, shoes, blankets, pictures, vases, and more can hold childhood memories that are hard to let go. However, being able to do so is a huge benefit, and will allow you to give more physical and emotional room for your significant other and show appreciation for a clean home.

Decluttering might not seem like an essential step in improving your relationship, but once you realize that decluttering also means letting go of the past, it is easier to understand that decluttering also provides a fresh slate and a place to build from.

Spring Cleaning for Mental Health

Social trends have taken us from tiny house obsessions to getting rid of anything that “doesn’t spark joy.” In this trending quest for living minimally, the theme of reducing the excess and unnecessary things in daily life goes far beyond a seasonal checkpoint.

The survey results draw a strong correlation between mental health and an ordered home as 63% of Americans agree that clutter in their home causes anxiety and nearly half report it causes more stress than their work responsibilities.

When it comes to what people would sacrifice for the peace of mind that a clean space brings, 82% of respondents would give up social media for a full year if it meant living in an organized home.

Tips to Turn It on Again

If you would like to get laid more with your stressed-out wife, give this a shot.

Now, this does not mean to encourage her to go out only to come home and find you lying on the couch, having done nothing. This means that while she does her thing, you keep the house going in the way she would want it done – tidy, kids fed, organized.

Yes, that isn’t fair because you don’t care about the mess and you’re super chill and laid back. However, life isn’t, and you wanted to know how to get laid, not how to rewire your wife’s mind.

Women don’t care about the stuff that you consider extravagant and ridiculous.

This doesn’t mean stop complimenting her or start ignoring her, just stop pressuring her. If you stop pressuring her for sex, you’re removing one source of constant stress that she faces every single day.

This can be as simple as saying “tonight” or “this weekend.” It also allows your wife to mentally prepare and feel as though she can get her housework and childcare organized prior.

Knowing ahead of time also means she won’t be stressed out thinking about how she still has to make the kids’ lunches while you’re trying to get your night started.

Make sure that there is time set aside for sex AFTER your wife has relaxed and done her own thing. For example:

♦ You take care of the house and the kids until naptime. If she has had some time off prior, then you can have some intimate time while the kid’s nap.

♦ Take care of the nighttime routine of bath bed and lunches, and let her relax and read a book. Then you can do it.

♦ You ask her for a list of things she wants to be done and do them all while you watch the kids. Let her go out for dinner with friends. Once she comes home, and you have outstanding experience.

Kids are great, but their presence can make it significantly more challenging for her to have meaningful, romantic alone time with you.

If you can, have someone else watch the kids while you and your wife stay in to enjoy each other’s company. You will feel a more exceptional, more loving, and more open atmosphere to reconnecting when you’re not focusing on childcare.

Routines help us stay organized and on track – we knew that. However, they often suck the magic out of a relationship because things become predictable.

Little changes to the schedule, like switching days for certain activities, can make things seem new and can set you up psychologically for intimacy that feels newer and less expected.

Physical intimacy is best achieved when you are able to foster intense emotional intimacy, so instead of trying to pursue new sexual endeavors and positions, consider creating more opportunities for deep and emotionally intimate connections.

Take some time to discuss your deepest concerns, thoughts, and feelings. Ask your partner new questions about their life, their goals, hopes, and perspectives. Genuinely listen, and provide unconditional support.

The idea of sex is most exciting when it develops organically and out of spontaneously. If you tend to have sex at the same time, every week, in the same way, without ever changing anything, you and your partner may grow tired of the act, or be less excited about it.

If this sounds familiar, don’t despair! You can change this by becoming more spontaneous in your affections, such as sending gifts, hugging, kissing, or writing notes.

The strategies that we discussed above should not be used once or twice, if especially if you are hoping to improve your sex life in the long-term. Instead, they should be used as ways that you can strengthen your relationship and increase your intimacy over the years.

We all know, marriage has the potential to become monotonous, dull, and even sometimes depressing – but do want to know what most people don’t know – if you don’t let it get that way, it won’t.

Finally

Now you may say that this is a bunch of BS. After all, women are supposed to want sex, so why should I have to change what I am doing? Well, if that is what you’ve been doing and you are still reading this, odds are it hasn’t been working all that well for you so far.

It really comes down to you deciding what you want. If you are cool with tepid bimonthly sex, keep dozing off on the couch while she does bathtime for the 100th day in a row. However, if that is the case, don’t be surprised that your wife is beginning to feel more like a maid than a partner.